Relationship Check

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Physical violence is easy to recognise; this check is aimed at recognising emotional and psychological abuse. Not all abusive relationships are intimate partner relationships – you might be worried about your relationship with your partner, but most of these questions can be applied to other relationships – for example with parents, other family members, or even friends. Try to answer every single question. However, if a question isn't relevant to your relationship, you can skip it. 

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  1. Yes: 0, No: 1
  2. Yes: 3, No: 0
  3. Yes: 1, No: 0
  4. Yes: 0, No: 1
  5. Yes: 1, No: 0
  6. Yes: 3, No: 0
  7. Yes: 3, No: 0
  8. Yes: 0, No: 1
  9. Yes: 1, No: 0
  10. Yes: 3, No: 0
  11. Yes: 1, No: 0
  12. Yes: 0, No: 1
  13. Yes: 5, No: 0
  14. Yes: 5, No: 0
  15. Yes: 3, No: 0
  16. Yes: 5, No: 0
  17. Yes: 1, No: 0
  18. Yes: 1, No: 0
  19. Yes: 3, No: 0
  20. Yes: 1, No: 0
  21. Yes: 1, No: 0
  22. Yes: 1, No: 0
  23. Yes: 10, No: 0
  24. Yes: 5, No: 0
  25. Yes: 5, No: 0

Your Score:

  • 0

    A score of zero suggests that your relationship is healthy and equal.

  • 1-4 points

    If you scored 1-4 points, you may be noticing a couple of things in your relationship that are bothering you. They're not necessarily 'red flags' but it's important to listen to your instincts and tell the person how you're feeling. Taking the opportunity to have a conversation about what you like and don't like can stop unhealthy patterns developing.

  • 5-9 points

    If you scored 5-9 points, it's possible that there is a pattern of power and control in your relationship. If you feel able to, talk to the person about what you like and don't like. If you don't feel comfortable to talk to them about it, call Aviva on 0800 28482 669. Read more here or contact us .

  • 10 or more points

    If you scored 10 or more points, you or your children could be at risk of harm. Remember, abuse/harm is not always physical. If you are in immediate danger dial 111. If you would like support from Aviva please call us on 0800 AVIVA NOW (0800 28482 669).